Cleaning Out Your Mental Closet: 6 Tips to Decluttering Your Mind
Growing up I absolutely hated Saturday mornings.
Every Saturday at the crack of ass, my grandmother would climb up our old rickety stairs and [quite loudly] wake-up me and my sisters so that we could get started on our house chores.
I’m not talking about your basic house cleaning, oh no.
I’m talking about that serious, get down on your hands and knees and make this place shine like the Buckingham Palace type of cleaning.
As torturous as it was, I learned from a very early age the importance of maintaining a clean and organized space; as well as how working in an environment free from clutter helps enhance my overall mental concentration.
And to top it off, I really know how to clean the shit out of a house lol. Okurr!!
Now that I’m a full grown adult not much has changed to be honest.
Granted I refuse to get up before Jesus and the birds just to clean my house (my weeks are draining enough. I deserve to sleep in if my schedule permits damnit!).
But, I digress.
Think about how satisfying it feels walking into a clean and organized room after an exhausting day. Now imagine that same feeling when you aren’t carrying the weight of unnecessary mental and emotional baggage.
What if we all decided to rid our minds of thoughts that no longer, or maybe never even, served us?
What if we spent more time being fully present and focused on not adding to our plate until something has been taken off?
You’ll be amazed to see how much of your thoughts and feelings clutter your mental and emotional space.
It’s important to know when it’s time to let go of the thoughts and feelings that hinder you, conscious or otherwise, from being your best self.
Here are 6 tips to help you get started along on your journey to cleaning out your mental closet.
Create Quiet Time:
Take some time to do an internal inventory of your thoughts and feelings.
Identify what has been cluttering your heart and mind. This doesn’t necessarily mean mediation (although if that’s your cup of tea, go for it ma).
What I’m saying here is to create a space where you actively tune into your inner world to determine what you can clear out of your mind that’ll help you become a calmer more centered person.
We all lead busy lives, but it’s critical that you also remember to create time to quiet your mind and really tune into your current thoughts and feelings. Identify what thoughts, stressors, and/or ideas have been cluttering your mind and determine whether it’s going to positively or negatively impact your quality of life.
All the positive and uplifting feelings, hold on tight to those. That is what will keep you floating when the negatives try to creep in all the negative unwanted thoughts, know that they do not define who you are or how you think.
Clear them out of your mind and you’ll begin to notice that you’ll begin to feel more centered and calm.
Journal It Out:
I’m a firm advocate of journaling. Sometimes our thoughts get trapped in our mind because we have yet to release them.
Putting your thoughts down on paper can be instrumental in clearing out your emotional space.
Seeing it on paper may make those feelings and thoughts seem more manageable and help you to see a different perspective.
The next time you feel emotionally burden write it down somewhere.
Drop That Grudge:
Sometimes we hold on to shit we experience with other people. That shady comment from your co-worker? Let it go.
Got into a fight with someone close to you? Forgive and let it go.
The releasing of grudges will free up space in your mental closet; allowing you to invest into more positive areas.
Saying “I’m Sorry:”
Conversely, knowing when to apologize is key.
Just like grudges take up negative mental space, when we’ve wronged someone (whether intentional or not) and have yet to make it amends, it too can take up mental and emotional space.
Apologizing can remove unnecessary discomfort and repair those damaged connections with others.
Positive reinforcement never comes in the form of criticism. We are often most critical of ourselves.
But what I have learned is that dwelling on past mistakes clutters my present and can lead to constant self-critical thoughts and feelings.
I don’t have time for all of that and neither do you, sis. Forgiving yourself when things don’t go as planned and refraining from indulging in destructive self-criticism opens you up to accepting yourself as you are. Flawed, and human.
Be Honest With Yourself:
Being emotionally honest with yourself is probably the most important tip. You’ll know when you’ve reached capacity. Being honest with yourself serves as a mental checkpoint. How much are you dealing with?
Is there space to receive more? Have you reached your limit? What do you need to let go of? What is blocking you? These are all questions you should be asking and answering, truthfully.
There’s no harm in saying you’ve reached your limit. Be honest about it, clean out your closet and get back to being your fabulous self.
Are you ready to choose joy? Comment below with your favorite tip! Ify came with the gems.
This article was written by #SelfishBabe Ify.
Ify is a born and raised NYC native with big dreams and an even bigger taste for creative writing, self-development, and pure happiness. Clinical oncology researcher and (future) MD by day and an avid traveler, wine connoisseur, and blogger by night. She just one girl hoping to inspire conversations on all things controversial, raw, honest, and meaningful.