Heart-Broken: Learning The Real GOOD in Good-bye
We’ve all had those heartbreaks. We’ve all felt broken-hearted and the pain that comes with it. We’ve all been disappointed by someone or something that didn’t go as expected. However, those that weren’t “for you” are teaching you how to become the one for yourself.
Imagine that everytime you feel upset, hurt, or depressed- your body is going through a system reboot to get you back to self. This of course, will make you feel like all hell is breaking loose, but it’s really just redirecting you back to your center.
Learning to let a relationship run its course without me struggling to keep it going is when I grew the most.
I had to yield to the concept of “letting go.” We tend to think that “letting go” means fuck it, I give up on this, that, and the third. I know for myself, I didn’t know how to let go in a healthy way.
I would let go with anger, resentment, and blame. With pent up animosity towards that person, secretly wishing they wouldn’t find anyone better than me (we all have our petty ways no matter how spiritually evolved).
Letting go, however, in a healthy way means, “I love this person enough to stop forcing it into what I think it should be and allowing it to mold into what God and/or The Universe wants it to be.”
I’ve learned that the real “good” in good-bye is the gift of space and opportunity to grow into a better match for yourself and with yourself.
Read that again.
I always thought to myself, “why isn’t this relationship working out” - and here’s a little secret:
All relationships work out as intended, just maybe not as desired. But they all workout when and how they are supposed to.
Therefore, a lot of times when relationships don’t function as desired or don’t accomplish what you imagined, it’s bigger than the hurt we maybe feeling. It’s an opportunity to grow. We must continue to strive to be our own best partners, best friends, and lovers.
I’ve found that the ultimate step in mending uneven ground is the mending of my own aching pain along the way.
You are not broken. Your heart is still pumping. You are making more progress than what it seems. Be mindful of this time and opportunity to learn more about yourself.
Take it and be surprised.
Comment below your favorite part of this article. Thierra trying to help us heal on the lordt’s Sunday.
This article was written by #SelfishBabe Thierra
Thierra Walker is a writer and artist based in Philadelphia, who centers her work around love, spirituality, and mental well-being for the transformative self. She is passionate about everyone finding their own form of happiness and achieving peace within self. Her ultimate goal through her writing is to “be the person she needed, and what she needed to hear”.